I've been with my boyfriend for a year now, and about two months ago he goes fishing for the day and comes back real late. The next day he goes fishing with a friend after work, which I knew about, but he doesn't come home. So the next day I call him at work to find out what is going on and he tells me that he's lost, he feels messed up, like his head is going a thousand miles an hour and he feels like he doesn't know whether he's coming of going. And then he tells me don't worry, I'm not going to just up and leave you like that, I'm not that mean. The next day I come home from work to find all his stuff gone. While I was at work, he came in and packed up all his stuff and moved out. I didn't talk to him for about a week and then I called him and he said that he just needs time to think things through.

Well, we talked every few days after that, I'm trying to keep communication open. So two weeks, we decided to try again, so he moved back in, his girls came over and we had a great weekend. Well a few days later, he came home from work early, his boss told him that his self-destruct button was on, so he sent him home. I could tell he was restless, couldn't stand in one spot very long, just didn't know what to do with himself. So he decided to go visit his cousin for a bit and that he'd be home for supper. Well supper came and went and he didn't come home until 9 o'clock, well before that I had a feeling that he wasn't coming home and it was going to be like last time. Well he comes in and I can tell that he's still not himself, he's grunting and moaning and I could tell he wanted to say something. Finally he tells me that he still feels lost and his mind is just racing and he doesn't know what to do. So he tells me that he's going to spend the night at his cousin's house.   When he told me he was going to sleep at his cousins, I started crying and he said don't cry, but how can I not cry when I don't know where this will lead us.

Well last weekend, he came  and we talked and he told me that he feels like he doesn't belong.  I'm not sure if it has to do with my exes that like sticking their nose in my business or not.  And he grabbed his clothes and I was gonna start crying and he said don't make more out of this than needs to be.  He says that he cares for me alot and that is why he needs to do this, to figure things out.  He says he needs to figure himself out before we can work on us.

I love him so much, I've been married twice and I've never felt the way I feel for him before. I just don't know what to do to help him and unsure of how much more I can take. I know you have to be supportive and give them an ear and a shoulder to cry on.  Does anyone have any ideas of how to help him and keep my relationship intact? I'm starting to think that the old saying, if you love someone set them free, and if they come back it' meant to be, if not then it wasn't. Am I wrong in thinking I should just set him free? Sorry so long!