Long story, short version: Dated this guy for two years, he had one fling while we dated, owned up to it, begged me to give him another chance, seemed to do all the right things to rebuild trust, but go caught in another lie 6 months later about how the fling actually started, had to start all over again. Big promise - big promise from this guy - I'll never leave you in the dark again - I will always tell you what is going on with me when questions, concerns, stuff comes up. Ok, fast forward through the holidays - he talks to my kid and his kid about our 'future' together, would they be ok if we made if formal, sharing a home, family etc. Fast forward through the winter, can't stand to be away from me, tells me everything he does (I don't ask, it's his cross to bear not mine) sends flowers, tells me I am the best thing to ever happen to him and he's blessed to have me in his life.. yadda yadda yadda BUT he seems just a little distant - somethings just a little off. I ask, he says nada, I drop it.
Fast forward to Easter, home in VA with all my family (bunch of very very intense, intelligent, and independent females) He has a blast. Come home drop off his son with the ex, start to cook dinner and I ask again, what's up - something is bothering you, I can tell. He's now got little, really small, things (you know, concerns) He still loves me, mind you, but my family is a little intense (like he didn't get that the first time they met over two years ago and every time he's been with them since?) and he's just got these little things that bubble up. He was 1000% sure he wanted to marry me, and now he's maybe 95% sure, from his own mouth. Well, I ask, what on earth has changed? What are these little things? He's really not sure, just stuff bubbling up he says.
Sound like a really cool way to say, look I think I've changed my mind on the whole let's get married thing? I think so - your opinions are welcome.
BTW - I told him to go figure it out on his own - I've go wayyyy tooooo much self respect to hang out while he takes his sweet time looking around to see if there is something better out there for him. Don't let that door hit you on the rear on the way out - seriously, hurry, cause I'm slamm'n that bad boy in your face kinda thing.
Fast forward to Easter, home in VA with all my family (bunch of very very intense, intelligent, and independent females) He has a blast. Come home drop off his son with the ex, start to cook dinner and I ask again, what's up - something is bothering you, I can tell. He's now got little, really small, things (you know, concerns) He still loves me, mind you, but my family is a little intense (like he didn't get that the first time they met over two years ago and every time he's been with them since?) and he's just got these little things that bubble up. He was 1000% sure he wanted to marry me, and now he's maybe 95% sure, from his own mouth. Well, I ask, what on earth has changed? What are these little things? He's really not sure, just stuff bubbling up he says.
Sound like a really cool way to say, look I think I've changed my mind on the whole let's get married thing? I think so - your opinions are welcome.
BTW - I told him to go figure it out on his own - I've go wayyyy tooooo much self respect to hang out while he takes his sweet time looking around to see if there is something better out there for him. Don't let that door hit you on the rear on the way out - seriously, hurry, cause I'm slamm'n that bad boy in your face kinda thing.
