I met a new guy online a few weeks ago. We talked online every evening for about 4 weeks minus a couple weeks he was at camp with his students. We met and went out a couple of times and had a pretty good time. He is a little older than me and is divorced 2 years after a 20 year marriage. He left his wife because she spent a lot of money. This bothers me because I too have ran up my credit cards and they won't be paid off for years, if ever. I don't make enough to pay anymore than the minimun and must use them constantly to buy groceries and stuff. It bothers me when a man divorces his wife for any reason as it is suppposed to be for better or worse and a vow before God. I also don't like that he seems to be a little cheap. We went to an amusement park and we rode nothing and had nothing to eat. It was an all day event and I about starved. I am old fashioned and believe that when a guy invites you out, if he is a gentleman he will pay. He claimed on his ad to mad 75K but it looks like he exagerated on that. I know his wife got everything, the house, townhouse, etc and he got the debt. He lives in a small apartment and just signed a long lease, which doens't make it sound like he is going anywhere soon. He eats cheap food at home like rice and potatoes and stuff, and doesn't dress very well. I wish he would wear something besides shorts on a date. He is a teacher and has a military retirement after 26 years of service but doens't seem to have anything. We talk for hours most nights but we haven't got to a 3rd date yet although I let him know in advance when I am off. When I tell him that I have to come home late fromwork and have to take a taxi and stuff, he will say, oh I worry about you, hope you find someone fromwork to bring you home, or oh that's too bad you got wet when you walked home from work (during the day). I feel that if he were a gentleman he would offer to give me a ride home. Both of our dates were all day events so it does seem that he is interested. I just don't know about him and if we do get somewhere, how will he react when he finds out I am a spender like his ex wife? He obviously is the type that would leave for something like that, after all he left his wife after 20 years. I just wish I could find a guy that I was attracted to (he looks ok but at this point I can't say I would ever want to get intimate with hime) and that would take me some nice places and that would treat me lilke a lady and do a few things for me because every guy I seem to meet is all take take take.