Hi - I'm new here, but what a great place! This is exactly what I was looking for.
I would appreciate any insights you can give me - straight talk is fine. Anyways, here's my story:
I'm an eBay seller and one of my buyers and I got to emailing each other about the transaction. I thought it would end there, but it has not. This was 2 months ago. After about a month of emailing each other back and forth (maybe once a day) I liked this guy so much that I started to develop a crush on him. We had a ton in common and he was so nice, and soooo funny. God, we laugh! So in one of my emails I said to him that it sounded like he was married (because he hadn't had directly said so), but that I was developing a crush on him and that maybe we shouldn't write anymore. I told him that I knew that marriages were hard enough to hold together these days and I didn't want to cause any trouble. He wrote back to me saying that yes, he was married, and was married to an incredible woman who really took care of him and they had a very good relationship. He also enclosed a picture of himself in the email and said that if I was still interested in writing that that was fine. So 2 things: 1) I thought, OK, this guy is very taken and is very happy in his marriage, 2) He encloses this picture of himself looking all gorgeous and of course I'm thinking "what did you do that for? that just makes it worse for me!" But I figured alright, I am having fun talking to him and now that I know that this is not going to go anywhere my crush will just fade naturally.
But that was not to be the case. 3 days later he emailed me telling me that he had just opened up a new google email account and invited me to open one too. Keep in mind that you have to know the password to access the emails in this account. Once his new email address was operational he started sending me emails from that address and not the old one and I also responded to him at the new address. And then the gates of his flirting opened wide. Coincidence? I don't think so at all. He began emailing me anywhere from 3-5 times a day, at work and at home. Flirting included. So I'm thinking to myself - dude, what are you doing? you just got done telling me how you were married to this incredible woman and you were very happy, and now you open up a new email address and are constantly emailing me and flirting on top of it. hmmm.....He also bought me a present which I am supposed to receive this week and has offered to burn me 9-12 of his DVDs that he knows I like and don't have. I didn't ask for them, nor hint. Note that he had no idea what I looked like; I just gave him my picture a few days ago. I emailed him last week and told him that the more we talk it just makes my crush grow and grow. He didn't respond to it, but he didn't push me away like he had the first time. Instead he ramped up the number of emails and chats to me. Besides, what is he going to say - I lied to you about being happy in my marriage in the beginning? It's possible that his wife saw the email I sent him initially professing my crush and she told him to "get rid of me" and he's too embarassed to admit that. So here I am with this fully developed crush now on a married man.
Do you see things the same way I do? That the email he sent me in the beginning about the very happy marriage he had with his incredible wife was a big lie? He's always been super nice to me and respectful, however, he comes across as a little submissive. My "woman's intuition" tells me that he could probably be dominated very easily in a relationship. (Not that that would be my intention if I was involved with him.)
Thanks for your help.
I would appreciate any insights you can give me - straight talk is fine. Anyways, here's my story:
I'm an eBay seller and one of my buyers and I got to emailing each other about the transaction. I thought it would end there, but it has not. This was 2 months ago. After about a month of emailing each other back and forth (maybe once a day) I liked this guy so much that I started to develop a crush on him. We had a ton in common and he was so nice, and soooo funny. God, we laugh! So in one of my emails I said to him that it sounded like he was married (because he hadn't had directly said so), but that I was developing a crush on him and that maybe we shouldn't write anymore. I told him that I knew that marriages were hard enough to hold together these days and I didn't want to cause any trouble. He wrote back to me saying that yes, he was married, and was married to an incredible woman who really took care of him and they had a very good relationship. He also enclosed a picture of himself in the email and said that if I was still interested in writing that that was fine. So 2 things: 1) I thought, OK, this guy is very taken and is very happy in his marriage, 2) He encloses this picture of himself looking all gorgeous and of course I'm thinking "what did you do that for? that just makes it worse for me!" But I figured alright, I am having fun talking to him and now that I know that this is not going to go anywhere my crush will just fade naturally.
But that was not to be the case. 3 days later he emailed me telling me that he had just opened up a new google email account and invited me to open one too. Keep in mind that you have to know the password to access the emails in this account. Once his new email address was operational he started sending me emails from that address and not the old one and I also responded to him at the new address. And then the gates of his flirting opened wide. Coincidence? I don't think so at all. He began emailing me anywhere from 3-5 times a day, at work and at home. Flirting included. So I'm thinking to myself - dude, what are you doing? you just got done telling me how you were married to this incredible woman and you were very happy, and now you open up a new email address and are constantly emailing me and flirting on top of it. hmmm.....He also bought me a present which I am supposed to receive this week and has offered to burn me 9-12 of his DVDs that he knows I like and don't have. I didn't ask for them, nor hint. Note that he had no idea what I looked like; I just gave him my picture a few days ago. I emailed him last week and told him that the more we talk it just makes my crush grow and grow. He didn't respond to it, but he didn't push me away like he had the first time. Instead he ramped up the number of emails and chats to me. Besides, what is he going to say - I lied to you about being happy in my marriage in the beginning? It's possible that his wife saw the email I sent him initially professing my crush and she told him to "get rid of me" and he's too embarassed to admit that. So here I am with this fully developed crush now on a married man.
Do you see things the same way I do? That the email he sent me in the beginning about the very happy marriage he had with his incredible wife was a big lie? He's always been super nice to me and respectful, however, he comes across as a little submissive. My "woman's intuition" tells me that he could probably be dominated very easily in a relationship. (Not that that would be my intention if I was involved with him.)
Thanks for your help.
