A boy loved me when I was in school some 16 yrs back. He was crazy then and finally lfet me when parents intervened. I liked him secrelty but never told him as i feared my parents. His parents too liked me a lot and tired to talk to me, convince my parents but failed.

Now, We met 6 months back thru facebook and he said he still likes me but as a friend now. he told me how much he tried to trace me and how much he missed me. We exchanged 300 mails in a month...just everything that we missed out in all these years, family, friends etc.,. He was however very decent and we talked of our school days and family and were enjoying. I feared again if his wife may not like. He said he would take care of that and actually it was his wife that told him to continue this friendship. She knows everything. I was still a bit scared that he may again leave me as a friend also. i rally liked him, his family.

Suddenly after a month he started avoiding me. I was surprised as this man who used to ask me to mail atleast once a day stopped communicating so suddenly. After a lot of asking, he said his wife is not happy with our friendship and he cant hurt her. He also gave a long speech that I shud love only my husband. I was surprised as I always loved my hubby and why is this guy telling me that suddenly? He said he would try to talk to me once ina while but nevr did. He also told me that I sould never mail him or call him when I tried calling him.

He ditched me as a friend again without any fault of mine this time. Now after 6months he started calling me. I am not taking his calls. I am scared of his preachings and dont trust him as a friend also now. He may ditch me anytime.

I dont know why he is calling me after he told me not to mail him or call him. Again he wants to give speeches? should I take his call? I realy dont want to though I want him as a friend, am not sure if we both can handle this. My hubby knows everything and feels I shud be away from this guy as there is no guarentee that he will continue to be my friend. Im extremely hurt and shocked by his behaviour. What did I do? Where did I go wrong?

He asked me to talk to his brother, parents, sister etc., i did because I knew them before. They were so happy to talk to me and now suddenly no one is talking. Im feeling so bad. His brother also told me how much this guy waited for me for years and finally married someone else.

I love my husband a lot but feel like talkng to my friend too as we were childhood friends before becoming something more. His family loves me a lot but I dont want to get hurt ot get my husband hurt. I dont even want this friend or his wife to get hurt. Still I want a friendship with him. What to do? But I surely dont want any speeches from him to love my husband, be happy and all nonsense.

I sometimes feel I should teach him a lesson but I dont want to hurt him. wat to do? I dont know why he is not mailing me and why only calling me. When he had ot leave me again, why did he make me talk to all his family? I feel humiliated and miserable.

He callsme once a week...I never picked up the phone..it is been the ase for the last 2 months. I want him to mail me and explain his behaviour only then I will talk that too with his family's permission this time. But I dont know if that will ever happen. I dont want to cut off form this guy or his family but am scared of his wife too. Will she ever understand?

Please help me.