My BF of 3 years thinks that I lied to him over some phone calls made from my cell phone. He found these by checking the call history (yes I know this is bad on his part). He thinks because I didn't tell him about the calls the day that I made them and it came up a week or so later that I had an alterior motive even though the person is a mutual friend of ours and another friend was with me when the calls were made. He said he has been noticing "patterns" of distrust over the last few years (3 things to be exact) that when he told me at the time they occurred that they bothered him, I made sure that situations like those never happened again.

He now says that he cannot be in a relationship that he has to watch every step that is made, etc. He has done some things in the past to make me question trust towards him but when he made changes to show me that these things were nothing, I trusted him from that point on. He is now not giving me the opportunity to prove to him that his fears are for nothing. I have never lied to him or done anything at all to jeopardize our relationship.

He said he is not walking away or he would have returned my things by now, but needs time to think, he is not sure which direction he will take things. How can someone give up 3 years of mostly good, by the way, did I mention that this was our first fight ever???, and through them away without even trying or giving the other person the chance to show them that they are loved an appreciated?

Please give me some insight....