I have been friends with a man for eight years now. When I met this man I knew I was going to fall in love with him and didn't really want to. /At that time I had a lot of baggage and didn't want anymore. He is not the man I would have ever thought I would fall in love with, but I did. When I met him I was recently separated but becus of fianacial reasons the husband and I had an agreement to live n the same house. I lived my life and he his. My husband had been seeing a another woman. I don't love my husband, but have never divorced him.
It came to my attention that this is a sore spot for the other man that I am in love with. I have been thru a lot with this man. Two bad relationships that he has had with women that mistreated him badly. There is a lot of distance between us and I don't have the opportunity to spend with him. Recently I visited him and we had a wonderful visit. When I came home I made the decision it's time for me to get a divorce.
This week I found out he is dating, a little bit but he says it is nothing serious. I found out thru a post on his facebook which is so not like him. He keeps those things very private. Was this a message for me?? He then had a discussion with my daughter and took that post off claiming he didn't want to hurt me, but he didn't know Ihad seen it. I view his behaviour as immature. Who does that?? posting something like that on facebook...
I am in panic mode now. He told my daughter the fact that I have never divorces (finacial reasons) which he doesnt know, is a sore spot for him. He thinks that after my mother in law passes away that may change. Then he stated he is in a wait and see. He stated 2 times he is waiting to see. This man respects marriage and would never accept me if I stayed married.
We have a talk scheldued for this week. I am very nervous but it's time to lay my cards on the table. What I want to know is this wrong?? I'm kind of old fashioned. Is it wrong for a woman to approach a man and let him know if there is hope for us in the future. I am visiting him in Aug of this year, but this casual dating thing he is doing is scarey for me. I love him with all my heart and he loves me too, he has a great deal of respect for me and I know that for sure.
I am older than him and that has always been a concern for me. He told my daughter if she were to ask me what I would do to change my life he didnt believe itwould be to spend every day with him. Is it possible he is in secure as well. I am so confused. I want to move forward with him after I get a divorce ...should I tell him that or ask him if it's a possibiltiy. He told my daughter to tell me I can do better, which is very true. But for me there is no better. he is not a good looking man, doesnt have a great deal of money but none of that matters to me. I want to spend my last years with this man. Help me please...
It came to my attention that this is a sore spot for the other man that I am in love with. I have been thru a lot with this man. Two bad relationships that he has had with women that mistreated him badly. There is a lot of distance between us and I don't have the opportunity to spend with him. Recently I visited him and we had a wonderful visit. When I came home I made the decision it's time for me to get a divorce.
This week I found out he is dating, a little bit but he says it is nothing serious. I found out thru a post on his facebook which is so not like him. He keeps those things very private. Was this a message for me?? He then had a discussion with my daughter and took that post off claiming he didn't want to hurt me, but he didn't know Ihad seen it. I view his behaviour as immature. Who does that?? posting something like that on facebook...
I am in panic mode now. He told my daughter the fact that I have never divorces (finacial reasons) which he doesnt know, is a sore spot for him. He thinks that after my mother in law passes away that may change. Then he stated he is in a wait and see. He stated 2 times he is waiting to see. This man respects marriage and would never accept me if I stayed married.
We have a talk scheldued for this week. I am very nervous but it's time to lay my cards on the table. What I want to know is this wrong?? I'm kind of old fashioned. Is it wrong for a woman to approach a man and let him know if there is hope for us in the future. I am visiting him in Aug of this year, but this casual dating thing he is doing is scarey for me. I love him with all my heart and he loves me too, he has a great deal of respect for me and I know that for sure.
I am older than him and that has always been a concern for me. He told my daughter if she were to ask me what I would do to change my life he didnt believe itwould be to spend every day with him. Is it possible he is in secure as well. I am so confused. I want to move forward with him after I get a divorce ...should I tell him that or ask him if it's a possibiltiy. He told my daughter to tell me I can do better, which is very true. But for me there is no better. he is not a good looking man, doesnt have a great deal of money but none of that matters to me. I want to spend my last years with this man. Help me please...
