Hey all!
So I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now and I am very aware of our trust issues. We are both in our first relationship and I think we are relatively young (early 20's). We have both made stupid mistakes, as in where we have cheated/ hurt each other badly. Also, we have alienated our friends and pushed practically all of them away. The friends that have been willing to still give me a chance have invited me to go to vegas. Well considering the mistakes I have made in my relationship there is a fat chance that my boyfriend will let me go with a smile on his face. It would only be for a couple of days, but he has already made his rejection to the idea quite clear. I really want to go though... He thinks I am too friendly when we go out and we have had many talks about things I need to change when in public. My intent is never to flirt with anyone, but unfortunately he is not the only one who perceives my actions as flirting. I don't know how to alleviate his concerns and regain his trust or if there is anyway I will ever be able to. Given the mistakes I have made in the past it is very hard for him to trust me. I used to have a lot of guy friends and when we would go to a party I would often be talking to them, but now if he sees me talking to any guy he immediately suspects something. I have tried not jumping on his case when he is talking to girls in hopes that he would trust in me more, but has not worked. We still go out with friends on guys/girls nights (on occassion), but he is always nervous and suspicious. We almost always get in a fight when I want to go clubbing with the girls. When I go out with my girls I am always about being with them and only talk to them. If there are any creeps they get my back and scare them off. What do I have to do to regain his trust? Is that even possible? Is it ridiculous to even bring up vegas to him?
So I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now and I am very aware of our trust issues. We are both in our first relationship and I think we are relatively young (early 20's). We have both made stupid mistakes, as in where we have cheated/ hurt each other badly. Also, we have alienated our friends and pushed practically all of them away. The friends that have been willing to still give me a chance have invited me to go to vegas. Well considering the mistakes I have made in my relationship there is a fat chance that my boyfriend will let me go with a smile on his face. It would only be for a couple of days, but he has already made his rejection to the idea quite clear. I really want to go though... He thinks I am too friendly when we go out and we have had many talks about things I need to change when in public. My intent is never to flirt with anyone, but unfortunately he is not the only one who perceives my actions as flirting. I don't know how to alleviate his concerns and regain his trust or if there is anyway I will ever be able to. Given the mistakes I have made in the past it is very hard for him to trust me. I used to have a lot of guy friends and when we would go to a party I would often be talking to them, but now if he sees me talking to any guy he immediately suspects something. I have tried not jumping on his case when he is talking to girls in hopes that he would trust in me more, but has not worked. We still go out with friends on guys/girls nights (on occassion), but he is always nervous and suspicious. We almost always get in a fight when I want to go clubbing with the girls. When I go out with my girls I am always about being with them and only talk to them. If there are any creeps they get my back and scare them off. What do I have to do to regain his trust? Is that even possible? Is it ridiculous to even bring up vegas to him?
