I have always been an independant woman. I have been in long term relationships and ended one 3 years ago, which was for 10 years because we couldnt agree on not having children. I met a guy about 2 years ago and in that time he has brought me to rock bottom. I have been in an emotional abusive relationship. This once head strong, confident, outgoing, happy woman has been reduced to constant tears, depression, no self esteem,  alot of self loathing and feeling desperate to get the love she craves, so now I cling onto anyone that shows me attention just to be hurt when they said they were only in it for fun *James ruined me and I let him. I gave him chance after chance and everytime he let me down. It is like I gave him permission to treat me this way. I didn't have the strength to get out and now I am stuck. He now wants to show me he is going to do the right thing by me and my children. It has been nearly 2 months. It feels like a life time. Part of me wants to stay and work it out but, when he is here I am just numb.... People say be more confident that I'm gorgeous .. Trying to help.. I am that point though it doesn't make a dent.. How can I get out of this hole. If anyone is out there who has been in an abusive relationship can you tell me how you got out and moved on?