I've already sought advice from my friends on my relationship but it's time to seek some impartial advice. So here goes. Before this relationship I'd never been in Love. Looking back I realise that now.....This girl for me is love.
I started dating my girlfriend over a year ago. I knew I was in love with her by the end of the first date and I told her on our second date, she was in love with me as well and things were amazing. As we talked about old relationships she told me that nearly every boyfriend she had had described her as cold, as sort of an ice queen. I couldn't believe her, she was so warm and loving and told me all the time how lucky she felt to have me and how much she loved me. I was just as soppy and over a year on I still am. It's maybe obvious but she isn't as soppy anymore. In over a year I have never met her 12 year old son, any of her family and only 1 of her friends.
Things first went wrong a couple of months in. She told me how jealous she was of my best friend (a girl) stating "guys and girls can't be friends" this is a complete contradiction to her own friendship with a few guys 2 of whom are ex boyfriends. I'm a little jealous but I trust her completly, I'm more jealous that she makes time for these guys and not for me. Anyway she needn't worry about me and my friend as we were like siblings, nothing has ever happened and never will happen between us, but because of how my girlfriend felt I stopped seeing my friend as much and she became my ex best friend.
Just before Christmas I picked her up from her christmas night out, I drove her and her 2 friends home in a journey lasting in total 2 hours. She didn't say a word to me the whole time and wouldn't tell me what was wrong. The next day she dumped me by text message becuase we were getting too serious, we had been talking about marriage and kids but it was her that said she wanted it all and started the conversation. She didn't know it but I had bought an engagement ring simply because I had the cash at the time and thought while I have it I'll buy one. My plan was to ask her 6 months on in the summer on our anniversary as long as she had let me into her world a little bit more. Obviously after getting dumped those plans changed. She begged me to take her back saying it was a massive mistake. I took her back all within a week.
Things were good again for a while but in the February I made a massive mistake. I went for dinner and a night out with my friends, I invited her but she didn't want to go. Anyway later that night at the club my ex best friend turned up with her boyfriend and I invited her and her partner to join me and my friends. We had 2 drinks and I left for home early and by myself. My girlfrined found out that my ex best friend turned up on my night out and asked me directly about it.....I'm ashamed to say I lied and said she wasn't there. I completly understand why she couldn't trust me after that. I grovelled, apologised and stopped seeing nearly all my friends after that. Luckily she stayed with me.
Things were ok, not great or as good as they had been but ok. Then out of the blue again one night she called me and dumped me again this time claiming she thought it was for the best because I didn't seem happy. Now considering I thought that would be my choice I committed to the break up even though I was absolutly distraught. She told me it was a mistake and begged for me back but this time I said no and we were seperated for 1 and 1/2 months. I just couldn't move on I did try and couldn't do it, so when she asked if we could talk I was delighted to get her back.
Things aren't as good as they were before she's colder than ever. She tells me she loves me but in the same breath tells me she never wants to have kids, doesn't see herself settling down with me and all she wants is a few dates and see where it goes. When things were at there best Id see her once or twice a week, when they got a little bad it was at least once a week. Since we have started up again it's once a month, maybe twice if I'm lucky.
Basically I need advice, as outsiders where do you see this going? do you think I'll ever get it back to where it was before? What would you do if you were in my shoes?
I started dating my girlfriend over a year ago. I knew I was in love with her by the end of the first date and I told her on our second date, she was in love with me as well and things were amazing. As we talked about old relationships she told me that nearly every boyfriend she had had described her as cold, as sort of an ice queen. I couldn't believe her, she was so warm and loving and told me all the time how lucky she felt to have me and how much she loved me. I was just as soppy and over a year on I still am. It's maybe obvious but she isn't as soppy anymore. In over a year I have never met her 12 year old son, any of her family and only 1 of her friends.
Things first went wrong a couple of months in. She told me how jealous she was of my best friend (a girl) stating "guys and girls can't be friends" this is a complete contradiction to her own friendship with a few guys 2 of whom are ex boyfriends. I'm a little jealous but I trust her completly, I'm more jealous that she makes time for these guys and not for me. Anyway she needn't worry about me and my friend as we were like siblings, nothing has ever happened and never will happen between us, but because of how my girlfriend felt I stopped seeing my friend as much and she became my ex best friend.
Just before Christmas I picked her up from her christmas night out, I drove her and her 2 friends home in a journey lasting in total 2 hours. She didn't say a word to me the whole time and wouldn't tell me what was wrong. The next day she dumped me by text message becuase we were getting too serious, we had been talking about marriage and kids but it was her that said she wanted it all and started the conversation. She didn't know it but I had bought an engagement ring simply because I had the cash at the time and thought while I have it I'll buy one. My plan was to ask her 6 months on in the summer on our anniversary as long as she had let me into her world a little bit more. Obviously after getting dumped those plans changed. She begged me to take her back saying it was a massive mistake. I took her back all within a week.
Things were good again for a while but in the February I made a massive mistake. I went for dinner and a night out with my friends, I invited her but she didn't want to go. Anyway later that night at the club my ex best friend turned up with her boyfriend and I invited her and her partner to join me and my friends. We had 2 drinks and I left for home early and by myself. My girlfrined found out that my ex best friend turned up on my night out and asked me directly about it.....I'm ashamed to say I lied and said she wasn't there. I completly understand why she couldn't trust me after that. I grovelled, apologised and stopped seeing nearly all my friends after that. Luckily she stayed with me.
Things were ok, not great or as good as they had been but ok. Then out of the blue again one night she called me and dumped me again this time claiming she thought it was for the best because I didn't seem happy. Now considering I thought that would be my choice I committed to the break up even though I was absolutly distraught. She told me it was a mistake and begged for me back but this time I said no and we were seperated for 1 and 1/2 months. I just couldn't move on I did try and couldn't do it, so when she asked if we could talk I was delighted to get her back.
Things aren't as good as they were before she's colder than ever. She tells me she loves me but in the same breath tells me she never wants to have kids, doesn't see herself settling down with me and all she wants is a few dates and see where it goes. When things were at there best Id see her once or twice a week, when they got a little bad it was at least once a week. Since we have started up again it's once a month, maybe twice if I'm lucky.
Basically I need advice, as outsiders where do you see this going? do you think I'll ever get it back to where it was before? What would you do if you were in my shoes?
