it sounds like the girl you've always been interested in hasn't turned out to be what you imagined her to be. You say you'd really like it to work out with her, but have a long list of completely unacceptable behavior. She's very clearly showing you exactly who she is and what a relationship with her will mean. If you're able to happily accept your personal information being shared with others, complete lack of trust, your words being twisted and you being called a liar, being with someone who never wants to do anything and does not make decision without the input of outsiders, being questioned about phone calls, whereabouts, having your work called to verify your whereabouts, then she's the girl for you. Expecting anything else would be unrealistic. Since you're here posting I'd say you wouldn't be able to accept this happily -- and that's a good thing, you shouldn't! This other girl, I can't see why you'd see her as an option either. A relationship with her already proved not to be workable, so why go back and do it again? If you're saying she expected you to turn into something you're not (show your true colors), why would you want a girl who judges you on less than your actual behavior? That kind of behavior will show itself again. All that said, leaving one relationship for another is never a good idea. Stay single, put some time into thinking about what this last relationship has taught you (reality vs. fantasy, standards you expect for a girlfriend's behavior, etc.). Neither of these girls are worth your time. Give yourself some time to get yourself straight and hold out for something worthy; you can do much better than either of these.