Here is my story- divorced after 15 years of a horrible marriage.  Casually dated others for three years until I met my boyfriend two and a half years ago.  He has been a perfect boyfriend- a dream come true.  He is thoughtful, attentive, sweet- our kids (from previous marriages spend time together, we spend time with each others families, travel together).  A year ago, I told him I was falling in love with him (which was a huge step for me).  He didn't say it back-hugged, kissed me, told me he would never disappoint me.  I have not said those words again.  The past year has been great.  He hints at a future but has never comes out and frankly talks about it.  I have chalked up the no "I love you" back and no honest talks about a future to the fact that he also went through a horrible divorce.  The last few weeks have seemed a bit off.  He has been communicating less and not as affectionate.  I thought we were both just busy with work & kids.  Holiday were great- he brought me very lovely gifts & took me away for new years.  He has not called in a week now- very unusual for him.  I sent him an email about a play we both wanted to see and he responded quickly that he wanted to see this play with me next week.  But nothing else....   I just have this sinking feeling that things are changing and he is contemplating a break-up.  I am confused.  Is he sending me mixed messages (no "I love you " back but still acting like a serious couple, lovely, expensive xmas gifts- then no communication for a week...)  I am not sure what to do now.  I love him.  Feeling sad and confused.  Any thoughts..... Please help...