I met a guy online in October, since then we chatted 2-3 X a week in which he asked me out twice for coffee & once for drinks. I had refused at the start because I wasn't sure, then agreed to go for a drink with him but couldn't set up a time that worked for both of us before he left for his Xmas vacation. (3 weeks) In that time on his vacation we talked almost daily for a few hours at a time. We had plans to get together as soon as he returned. Well we chatted online when he returned & his response was I have plans for Friday & probably Sat. So he blows me off when he has been actively pursuing me for 3 months, I just don't get it. Why would you invest the time if you were not interested???? I have talked to him twice online since that both times initiated by him, the second time it was almost a repeat performance except come over now & when I said no & wanted to make plans the response was , "you are such a planner" . The third time I was just pleasant & talked to him briefly; didn't go there.
But my thing is I just don't get it, why would a person waste so much time to back off like that???? He is still very flirty BUT????