There is obviously more to it (9.5 years). But I will start with why I'm here. My wife left me 4 weeks ago(Sept 16th), took my 2 teenage step daughters and even took the dog. We have owned a house for the first time for the past 2.5 years now. She was laid off in July of this year and had a hard time with the unemployment office. Finally was rectified. She has had massive allergies and had dificulty getting an appointment for an allergist (took 2 months).Anyways things were a little difficult and I was no help. I was looking just to maintain the status quo. We got into a big fight (Sunday Sept 13)and everything that I have ever done wrong in the marraige came to light. She said she has had enough. I backed off. I new she was serious. I apologized. She told me that she would give me 30 days to straighten out. I said ok. monday and tuesday was ok she went shopping like normal and evrything seemed ok. I was suppose to go to the job service with her on tuesday but could't make it because of my job.She was going to the job service to finish signing up for an education program to change career fields. Wednesday I came home at 3:30pm she got a call from her best friend who has cancer. she said that her friend wanted her to come over and watch a movie. 45 minutes away. I told her to go ahead because the more time you spend with her the the better. It took her a long time to leave. I heard her talking to my daughters outside who were doing chores. She said if daddy gets mad at you just do what your told then call me. When I heard this I couldn't understand why she said that. We barked back and forth she took the youngest and left for her friends. My oldest and I went to the store. I had a funny feeling something was up. I asked my oldest if mom was alright is she mad at me. She hesitated a little and said only when you guys fight.The cell phone rang asked why my oldest didn't answer her cell phone I said we were at the store. After this call we went home I felt strange about the call. I asked my daughter if mom was going to leave (I just sensed it) she said mom said she worked too hard for this. When we got home my wife and other daughter came home around 8:30 she told me she was leaving. My oldest hid in her room with the lights out. My wife asked why she was in the dark and said lets go. Well they left. I called her cell phone and she told me she left because the past 9.5 years have been lousy and that it was all my fault. Two days later she told me that she removed my name off of her credit cards and that it was over she was filing for divorce. I found out she was staying at her mothers out of state in mass 2.5 hours away. She informed me that she would be civil because she still cared for me but not to talk about the marraige she said that she would help with the bills untill I got a roomate or a girlfriend. She told me don't take anytime off from work. She also asked what she could have in the house. I told her that half was her's. Anyways she said she would pick things up when I'm not there. She came back took all of their clothes and some of the dvds The next day my oldest had a cyst removed from her wrist. She said that I couldn't go to the hospital because my oldest daughter said I ruined everything. The next day she had her alergy appointment (all 3 days of travel are 5 hour round trips) she called me via cell phone and told me that she was allergic to trees, all mold, cats everything except dogs. Then a few days later I called her sister who did't answer. My wife called me back ballistic. The next day she calls and says our youngest has someone she doesn't know text messaging her. So I had the phone company block the number.I asked about the cell phones if she wasn't coming back what to do. She said she would help pay untill the commitment expires.I We talked the next day and told her she could assume the phones if I gave the phone company permission. She called me two days later and said she switched over the phones. I asked If we could see each other and she said that beven if I wanted to I wouldn't like it because she started smoking and she got her lower lip pierced. She's 36 and I am 49 I I asked why she thought that because that's not up to me. although picking up smoking isn't really a good Idea. Anyways we started talking and she said that what she put in the joint account was it. She said her lawyer stated she didn't have to pay for anything else.Both of our names are on the mortgage. There is no equity in it. She said she wants to just walk away. She started getting hysterical about our relationship then she hung up. A few hours later I left cell phone messages with the girls to let them know I was thinking of them. When I called my youngest my number was restricted from her phone. I checked back with my oldest and wife and it was the same on theirs also. I cxalled her step father and he said I wasn't allowed to call there. A week later she came by and picked up the rest of our dvds(1000)It has now been a total of 4 weeks. I called the courthouse she hasn't filed. Please comment I feel like I'm in the twighlight zone right now.