Hello all. I will try and keep this as brief as I can, me and my partner have been together now for 18 years we have 2 children age 16 and 10. Our relationship
problems begun when we moved house 2 half years ago, in this time we have had some really tough times we both have had to cope with loss in our family's my
partner lost his sister to cancer 2 years ago, he was devastated and still is he was very close to his sister in age as well (39 and 40) I lost my nan as well
which was a tough time as well, along with this we have had many challenges to deal with my daughter has special educational needs and has been having problems
with bully's at school this has effected me a great deal as I'm not getting the support from her school like I should be, my partner has been really
unhappy at work which has affected his moods. Also my partners been trying to rebuild a very broken relationship with his father they had not spoken in about
20 years but have been in contact again for over a year. In November last year we found out that his dad has cancer and although he is having treatment and a
operation in February we are both feeling whatever else will come next. Because of so much going on our relationship has really suffered I'm not for 1 min
going to put all the blame on my partner because I no I'm no angel, but what hurts me the most is seeing the person you love so much start to change into
someone who you don't no anymore, my partner always use to be considerate. And take my feelings into account but recently he the things he does leaves me
wondering if he is being like this because of the stress or because he really wants out of the relationship, he has what o call the do what I please attitud,
and if I moan about anything then he will either walk out then ignore my calls until he is ready to come home but then when he is home I dare not mention the
row we had because then he comes out with
I can't deal with this anymore I'm leaving so then I do what I always do cry and beg him to stay so he stays we talk we agree on what we both need to change then a week or so later the exact same thing happens again, the thing what really gets to me is sometimes he can do something really hurtful but he really does believe that it's no big deal that's the other thing he always says to me is whatever we row about is not a big deal but sometimes it's so obvious that it is so out of order I just wish that someone else can listen in and then let him no that it is him being out of order. Here is an example of what he thought was no big deal, new years day I suggested that me him and the kids go out for a meal but he wanted to stay in and play the xbox with his friend I said that I thought he was being selfish and that being it was new years day I really didn't think it would of been an issue at all well it ended. Up with him shouting some really nasty things to me before saying I'm going out I be home in time to wish you happy new year, then all my calls to him and texts where ignored for about 2 hours then he got home at 8pm we sat in silence and it remained like that for about a week then we had the chat what we always have and now today for some reason he is not talking. To me again he is working nights so when he woke up this afternoon he was really off with me not really saying anything to me just sat there with a moody face then he went to work I text him and asked what have I done wrong this was at 6.30pm and I've had no reply back. I do love him and I do no he loves me because when things are good it's really good, we do try and not let the children hear but we all no children are not silly they sense when mum and dad are not happy. All I no is I can't help feeling that the man I fell in love with and still am very much in love with is disappearing before my eyes and there's nothing I can do about it.
I can't deal with this anymore I'm leaving so then I do what I always do cry and beg him to stay so he stays we talk we agree on what we both need to change then a week or so later the exact same thing happens again, the thing what really gets to me is sometimes he can do something really hurtful but he really does believe that it's no big deal that's the other thing he always says to me is whatever we row about is not a big deal but sometimes it's so obvious that it is so out of order I just wish that someone else can listen in and then let him no that it is him being out of order. Here is an example of what he thought was no big deal, new years day I suggested that me him and the kids go out for a meal but he wanted to stay in and play the xbox with his friend I said that I thought he was being selfish and that being it was new years day I really didn't think it would of been an issue at all well it ended. Up with him shouting some really nasty things to me before saying I'm going out I be home in time to wish you happy new year, then all my calls to him and texts where ignored for about 2 hours then he got home at 8pm we sat in silence and it remained like that for about a week then we had the chat what we always have and now today for some reason he is not talking. To me again he is working nights so when he woke up this afternoon he was really off with me not really saying anything to me just sat there with a moody face then he went to work I text him and asked what have I done wrong this was at 6.30pm and I've had no reply back. I do love him and I do no he loves me because when things are good it's really good, we do try and not let the children hear but we all no children are not silly they sense when mum and dad are not happy. All I no is I can't help feeling that the man I fell in love with and still am very much in love with is disappearing before my eyes and there's nothing I can do about it.
